Our fundamental need for connection and acceptance through close relationships with others is as old as humanity itself.
Intimacy takes various forms, ranging from the physical and emotional to the cerebral, and each individual and relationship will have its own unique experience with intimacy. But nonetheless contrary to common belief, there are numerous ways to get closer to your spouse outside physical intimacy, such as knowing their distinct love language and engaging in meaningful discussion.
Why Is It Important?
Intimacy that does not include sexual contact is essential to the growth of trust and a sense of shared protection in a couple’s relationship.
Non-sexual intimacy provides the opportunity to get more in-depth familiarity with oneself as well as your partner, which can play a role in the development of a unified emotional connection.
Non-sexual intimacy may feel more natural to some people, whether this is due to their sexual orientation, a personal choice, or something else entirely. This is an essential point to keep in mind.
The experience of intimacy is unique to each person, and it can be beneficial to cultivate self-awareness of the factors that contribute to your sense of feeling connected for both of you. Whatever it is that you and your significant other decide to do, whether it be giving each other back rubs or reading a book together, try keeping it fresh and exciting by recognizing the uniqueness of each person.
Cinema/Shows
The art of film and television shows is one to be shared with others. The best way, in my opinion, to do so is by discussing the show together. Whether at a distance or close together, this is one sure way to hone a connection with your significant other,
Dutch/Couple Dates
Couples going on dates with one another is usually a common practice in healthy relationships. Incorporating another couple or going dutch, a germanic word that means each person paying their own way, is a subtle way to acknowledge the individual while maintaining unity.
Planning and Traveling Together
Every relationship is different, but planning a trip together as a couple facilitates a shared experience. The final act of actually going on the vacation and even completing activities on itinerary leaves a feeling of relief and rejuvenation.
Activism/Charity
Altruism is rewarding to a person based on their own individual motivations and interests. The shared experience of charity with a significant other fosters a sense of belonging, especially when it’s within their own community. Activism is especially critical in its ability to unite purpose between individuals.
Spa/Massage Parlors
Similar to planning and taking a vacation, a spa and massage rejuvenate. The difference here is that these can occur at any time and doesn’t require the lofty expense tab of an actual vacation.
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