Lori Harvey, the stepdaughter of television host and comedian Steve Harvey, was an equestrian with her sights on becoming a professional in the sport. However, an accident halted her career plans. She is now a model whose dating life is a trending topic.
In 2016, Lori started dating Dutch football player Memphis Depay. He proposed to her in June 2017. In 2018, Lori was spotted without her engagement ring and never officially announced the breakup. After her engagement, Lori dated around like any single person would, right? She was seen with different men, like Lewis Hamilton, Trey Songz, Justin Combs, and Diddy.
At the beginning of 2020, Lori sparked dating rumors indirectly via her Instagram story that Future was her current beau with him kissing her on the cheek. He displayed his appreciation for her through an all-expense-paid birthday vacation for her and her close friends. Future ignited breakup rumors when he deleted all of her photos from his Instagram account in August 2020.
As she always does, she moved on without a formal announcement. Lori was recently spotted getting off of a jet with Michael B. Jordan in Atlanta on Thanksgiving Eve. Although it was not confirmed that they are dating, Lori is receiving praise for possibly bagging one of the most desired men in Hollywood.
Dating multiple people at once is often referred to as “roster dating”.
It has a bad rep and honestly, I used to be against it. I was the young woman who invested all of my energy into one man, or put all of my eggs into one basket. My main reason against roster dating was because I felt exhausted trying to keep up with the different personalities.
Trivial, right? I was doing myself a disservice and attempting to make other women pay for it through my judgments. The fact that I was giving away my exclusivity effortlessly was decreasing my value. I learned this lesson quick!
Let’s be clear, this was when I was about 21 and I am grateful that I ended that outdated way of thinking by the time I was about 22. After a relationship that transformed the way I viewed myself, for the better, I started dating without giving my exclusivity to anyone. I had a blast! I learned a lot about myself, which is what is most important here. Roster dating, or dating multiple people at once, isn’t about a list of men who you call up for sex. It is far beyond that. Quite frankly, you don’t even have to be intimate with any of them. You are grown though, so do you, but safely and protect your energy.
Dating multiple men allows you to take your power back. You are not at anyone’s beck and call.
It is crucial to date people at and above your level.
You want to date men of quality. Reduce investing your time in people that do not have the power to give you a return.
Let’s be clear it is not about using anyone or being opportunistic in love. You should have something to offer in exchange that is authentic to who you are as a person. Do you have a dietary lifestyle that may benefit his health? Are you an avid reader who loves to discuss what you read with others? Are you rich in knowledge about spirituality and manifestation? Do you work-out a lot and need an accountability partner at the gym? Are you someone who can help a person bounce around their ideas and help formulate plans? Are you a painter looking for another creative to introduce to art shows? Do you know your way around the kitchen?
Be your authentic self. If you are struggling with this, then read more here.
Lean into who you are at your core so that you know you are worthy.
Here is what you will learn with this dating technique:
Your “Likes” and “Dislikes”
Far too often, people think that they know what they want. Voila! It appears and it turns out they don’t like what they thought they wanted.
The problem is that a lot of people do not know themselves.
We learn best through contrast and comparison. When you date in and out of your comfort zone, you start to see what it is that you truly want. When you take the time to date and get to know someone, you inadvertently get to know yourself a little bit better each time.
Awareness of self is necessary for any relationship.
How To Date With A Purpose
When you are dating with a purpose, you understand the importance of your time.
We don’t get into the car hungry, then drive around making mindless turns wishing and hoping that we arrive at a destination that will satisfy our hunger. If you are not dating with a purpose, then how will you know when you have met the right person?
When you date with a purpose, you talk about the important stuff when on dates. You discuss their goals and see if both of your values align. When you are intentional with your dating, you learn how to be selective and not allow yourself to feel pressured into dating someone simply because they are attracted to you.
Dating multiple men will inadvertently teach you that your time has value. You do not owe anyone your time simply because they want it.
Your Business Is Your Business
Most women tend to overshare with men.
They give them too much information too soon. Girl, he does not need to have all of that tea on you. More often than not, people overshare because they deeply desire to connect with someone or have poor boundaries.
You do not have to give out any deeply personal information about yourself until you are ready. If he can not respect that, then this says more about him than it does about you.
Dating multiple men is not about you letting a man know that he has competition.
If he does not ask you, then do not mention it. However, if he does, just state the truth: you are not in a monogamous relationship at the moment. Do not go into names and specifics.
Most men date and entertain multiple women at once all the time. Again, this is not a new concept, so throw the double standards out the window. When you are dating multiple men at once, you understand what information is necessary and what is not.
How To Go Where You Are Wanted
Sadly, at times, women attempt to change the men in their life.
Why don’t women go where they are wanted? Especially when men are waiting for them to accept their bid for attention.
Confident people can handle rejection.
They do not seek to smear a person’s character or reputation because someone did not accept their invitation for a date, relationship, etc.
Confident and secure people respect a person’s decision and move accordingly.
Dating multiple men at once will teach you to date men who want you. You will not have time to chase after anyone. You will not have time for anything that does not serve you.
Let me be frank if a person is busy with their goals and life, then this is not what I mean when I say go where you are wanted. I am referring to people who pop in and out of your life when it is convenient for them.
Let go of what does not serve you and go where you are wanted.
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